Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Still Poly and still swimming

Well, it has been quite a while since I wrote. My life has been shaken up. My son The Jedi stayed with us for a year, then went back to Texas. The Griffin and Mr. Atheist finally broke up for good. That meant she came to stay with Mad Sci and I. This did not go well. Griffin's relentless abuse of my person, and my ways, became intolerable, at which point, I took a little vacation. This spring Jedi was back in my life again because of a prolonged break up with his girl in Texas. Also Mr. Atheist is a bigger part of my life. So the FOC has shifted a little. Mad Sci, Prof, Mr. Atheist, Jedi and myself. Mad Sci has also added a couple of lovelies to our lives Kawaii and Wild Orchid. These are his club playmates. Things have returned to relative peace and quiet.

Some of you may be curious about my time with the Griffin. So here is the breakdown. I wanted to do everything I could for my friend. She would have been homeless if I had not been here for her. But her paranoia and fantasy overwhelmed her convincing her that I was to blame for all her problems.

I don't know when exactly this happened but she went from being my friend to no longer being my friend. Her wild accusations about my motives and behavior were followed by soul crushing verbal abuse.  I was wrong about everything, my house wasn't clean enough, my clothing style offensive, my care of my husband inadequate, my essential self unacceptable. I am not angry that she decided not to like me, I am angry at myself for being taken in and letting this go on so long. She has told everyone she could that I broke up her relationship with Mr. Atheist, not true. She has also been saying I physically attacked her, also not true.

I don't wish her harm but it will be a cold day in hell before I extend my hand again. You only get to break the skin once with me. I hope she finds what she is looking for and a person willing to love her for all her insanity.

Other than that, and a 5day trip to the mental health hospital, things returned to relative peace for me pretty quickly.

Mr. Atheist and I are still recovering from the tropical storm that was Griffin but things are better between us too. I had always kept some distance between us so she would not need to worry about my loyalty to her but once the shit hit the fan, I knew who my real friend was. I had crow to eat. I had believed everything she said about him and stood by her. I eliminated him from my life for her comfort. This was a mistake and I have since corrected it and we are good friends again.

Needless to say, for the moment, I am completely put off by other women. I hope that changes in the future. We shall see.